What happens when the warm connection between a black woman and a white woman is broken by insensitivity and unconscious white privilege? Are courage, honesty, forgiveness and hope enough to heal the separation? This true story is based on the chapter “The Promise” in the book Longing: Stories of Racial Healing by Phyllis and Eugene Unterschuetz, © Bahá’í Publishing 2010.
- Why do you think Kathryn and Georgia chose to tell Phyllis about the things they had to teach their sons?
- What might have caused Randa, the waitress in the story, to withdraw so suddenly after Phyllis promised that things would “get better”?
- What does Phyllis mean when she asks, “Is this one of the elements of white privilege – having the option to know the truth and then forget it because it doesn’t apply to my life?” What are some other elements of white privilege?
- What do you think happened in Randa’s mind or heart that allowed her to respond as she did to Phyllis’s apology?
- African American/Black History
- Crossing Cultures
- Education and Life Lessons
- European American/Whites
- Family and Childhood
- Stereotypes and Discrimination
- Taking A Stand and Peacemaking